IRS vs Divorce- Which Is Scarier?

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The IRS and divorce are two boogeymen on most people’s fear lists. But why are they so scary? Financial ruin, of course! Let’s break them down into bite-sized pieces and see what we can do to protect ourselves.

Internal Revenue Service

I think it is a healthy response to fear the IRS to some extent; a bit of fear keeps us, taxpayers, in line! However, there are a few circumstances that can trigger scary events. Let us look at those more closely.

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Having a windfall year and not paying taxes on the windfall when it happens. The following year, the taxpayer discovers that they owe money. However, they do not have the money to pay because that income was just a windfall, and now it is gone. Why does this happen? It is the way people think about taxes.

Most people think of taxes as something you must calculate at the end of the year, by April 15th and March 15th for some businesses. You would do better to consider taxes as “a portion of your income” supporting local and federal structures. That is right, a portion of your income. Being employed as a W2 worker is easy, and your employer is handling your tax withholding. You do not even have to think about it because the taxes are going to the IRS like clockwork.

The same rules apply to the income you receive outside of your usual paycheck. Every time you receive earned income, you trigger a taxable event. If you do not send the money to the IRS, who will? And, if you do not, that money will still be due when you arrive at year-end to pay your taxes. The problem with waiting is that the penalties for late payments are very stiff.

You are usually better off just sending the payment in and getting a refund at the end of the year rather than taking the chance to owe more than you can 
pay and having those penalties added to your balance. Sure, you could impound the money into a savings account set aside for taxes, but only if you have the self-control not to touch it!

Facing an Audit

Audits are not fun, but they are incredibly taxing (pun intended) if you do not have your bookkeeping and records together. Think about it. Do you know where your medical bills from 2012 are right now? Maybe you always take the standard deduction, so you do not care, right? Do you have copies of the paperwork from that IRA you rolled over when you got the new job six years ago?

Did your 
employer reimburse you for cell phone expenses that you incurred on their behalf? Where do you have the cell phone bills for those periods, you know, the ones from that phone company you do not use anymore? I think I have made my point.Complete Controller. America’s Bookkeeping Experts

It is time to enter the 21st century. It is advisable to have all your tax records scanned and saved electronically for ease of access and IRS submission. You can use a bookkeeping service, like Complete Controller, to keep the books, scan them, name them, and store your source documents securely. You can also create your filing system and do your books.

Stay aware of security issues around solutions like Dropbox or solutions that disappear if you do not maintain your
software subscription, like QuickBooks. Choose carefully and name your documents in a searchable manner—for example, YYMMDD Name of Document $XXX.XX.pdf matches a transaction on the books. Your audit will go faster and smoother. And, if you have not broken any rules, you have little to fear.


Divorce is awful. It is the end of a chapter and the last resort for two people who were, indeed, madly, deeply in love at one point. And it usually comes after you both have made mistakes you cannot repair, leading to irreconcilable differences. What are some of the divorce’s most damaging financial impacts, and what can you do to prevent them?

The 3-Ds

Single-income families now have twice the expenses and half the wealth. When you are young and falling in love, you might find it awkward to have conversations about earnings, savings, credit, and financial planning. You might know every intimate secret and physicality about someone and don’t know anything about their bank account, spending habits, saving goals, and plans to get to happily ever after.

I strongly advise you not to enter a marriage (which is effectively a business partnership with benefits) until you fully grasp your partner’s financial strengths and weaknesses. Frank and open conversations about finances will help you groove healthy habits like budgeting and financial planning, preventing divorce.

While planning your finances, it is necessary to work a contingency into your plan that solves the problems of death, disease, or divorce (the 3-Ds). Insurance is a great way to cover these risks. Individual retirement accounts are also great tools. 

If you plan for one family member to earn more while the other provides support that is not financial, such as schooling or child-rearing, it is essential to talk about how that person will be covered in case one of the 3-Ds happens to the family. Equal attention should be given to each person’s financial stability, and whenever possible, the family should try to limit living expenses to one-half of their after-tax income. This is not only a good habit but will also let both parties know they will be fine if the family income gets split.

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Nothing is more devastating than discovering that the person you let into your inner circle of trust, who vowed to have your back under all circumstances, is hiding financial irresponsibility. This can show up in many ways: spending the kid’s college funds, applying for credit or entering a financial contract without spousal consent, failure to pay taxes, exposure to current or future financial risk by not paying insurance bills, or failing to fund the 401(k). Do not let your partnership suffer this violation; insist upon transparency now.

Household and business finances are everyone’s business unless you have a prenuptial agreement that states otherwise and absolves you from responsibility. Ignorance is not bliss; it is dangerous. No matter what the news, it is better to both know it and work to solve it rather than having the burden and shame fall on one person’s shoulders while the other enjoys what turns out to be only a facade. The worst thing you can steal from someone is the truth.

By practicing transparency, each member is equally responsible for the financial outcome and knowledgeable about the risk. Plans can be made, and desperation might breed ingenuity. Use a service like Complete Controller to manage your household books and records on a secure platform where the information is available for you and your partner to view or manage your budget and bookkeeping in a shared document or app and make sure the bank accesses are available to anyone with skin in the game. Use Credit Karma and share those credentials, too. Divorce is nasty enough without having debt and dishonesty rear up months or even years later. Make it your responsibility to know.


We can all agree that the IRS and divorce are equally scary. Hopefully, with some advice from your friends at Complete Controller, you are a step ahead if you must face them!

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